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-an intense fear of abandonment, even going to extreme measures to avoid real or imagined abandonment

-a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, such as idealizing someone one minute and then suddenly believing the person dosen't care or is cruel

-rapid changes in self-identity and self-image that include shifting goals and values, and seeing yourself as bad or as if you don't exist at all


-periods of stress-related paranoia and loss of contact with reality, lasting a few minutes to a few hours

-impulsive and risky behavior, such as gambling, reckless driving, promiscuous sex, spending sprees, binge eating, drug abuse, or sabotaging success by suddenly quitting a good job or ending a positive relationship

-suicidal threats or behavior or self-injury, often in response to fear of separation or rejection


-wide mood swings lasting a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame, or anxiety

-ongoing feelings of emptiness

-inapprpriate, intense anger, such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter, or having physical fights


-out of body experiences-feeling as though they are on the outside of life, on the outside of themselves, looking in, chronically feel as though everyone else around them has a capacity to feel good, be liked, and experience love, while they cannot

-insecurity-unsettling and nagging, the insecurity the bpd person feels dictates their actions, behaviors, thoughts, beliefs, and relation to others

-hatred of the self-self obsessive and self centered self hatred, insecurity, clinginess in relationships, outlandish behavior, the self hatred and insecurity create dramatic episodes


-paranoia and suspicion-feelin as though everyone is plotting against them, punishing them. the closer the relationship, the more difficult trust is to maintain

-impulsivity-lack of self control is due to an inability to regulate emotions, self-harm, suicide attempts, tattoos, piercings, promiscuous sex, compulsive shopping

-verbal abuse-black out when they begin verbally abusing others, nobody is safe when there is nowhere left for the erratic emotions of borderline to go


-ruminating thoughts-start an endless cycle of loop thinking, their ruminating thoughts obsess over their insecurities, now powered by negative behaviors for which they can endlessly criticize themselves

-lack of self identity-the personality of someone with borderline has no start or finish, struggles to maintain personal boundaries, there is no definition of who they are